As you might imagine, I get a lot of questions in the course of my average day. Some of them I can answer quite directly, others (for numerous reasons) require a different kind of answer than the caller is expecting. That can lead to frustration on both sides.
Partly due to the way psychic matters are portrayed in the media, partly due to the influence of unethical “psychics” who claim to “know all,” and partly out of simple naive hope, many people consult psychics asking to be told “how things will turn out” in a particular area of their lives. While this can be extremely lucrative for a “psychic” who will play that game, it is not the most true or helpful way to look at one’s potential future.
Decades ago, when I was new to the psychic realm, I too believed that things could be “predicted” in a simplistic way. “How will this turn out?” “When will that happen?” and even “Will I ever do thus and so?” were typical questions… until I learned that that is not the way reality works.
Sadly, some “psychics” delibrately take advantage of this ignorance. There is no end to the possibilities, when one is willing to spin entertaining tales of “events to come” for an eager or anxious audience. Then again, many genuine psychics simply do not know any better, as they themselves do not really understand why it is that they occasionally see glimpses of “future” events which later come to pass.
What happens when a psychic “sees” a potential future event? Is it already waiting up there ahead on our path, destined to occur at some future point? Ninety-nine percent of the time, the answer to that is NO. What a good psychic sees is the likely outcome of potential events, IF the current forces and factors continue to move in the same direction. That is a very big and important IF.
You see, psychics receive information through several channels, including telepathy (perceiving the thoughts of others), empathy (sensing the feelings of others), clairvoyance (picking up information that is not necessarily known by any other human), and so-called precognition (seeing or knowing about potential future events). Often a psychic’s perceptions are a blend of these elements.
There are many, many problems with predicting future events, but the main one for purposes of this discussion is that they are still only potential events, and the course of those events can be changed by the choices of the participants. The fact is that free will, exercised consciously, has the power to reshape virtually any potential event.
Surely you believe that you have at least some free will. If you didn’t, you wouldn’t bother to call a psychic, would you? Even if you are calling to find out “what is going to happen” in the mistaken belief that it is already decided, you are still hoping to make better decisions based on that information, aren’t you? And making better decisions, or hoping to, is based on exercising free will — which in turn would shape the course of events differently than making worse decisions — correct? Think about that for a minute.
So, this is a funny mind trap that many of us have fallen into, thinking on the one hand that the future (including what other people are going to do) is already set and can be predicted — and yet on the other hand trying to make decisions to get the best outcome based on the information given in the prediction! If the future events really were all set up and decided, there would be no hope of changing anything in your experience of that event or its consequences.
If that were true, it would be useless to seek predictions or, indeed, any kind of advice whatsoever. The very fact that you ARE seeking advice shows that, on some level, you do believe in your power to shape your life by your own decisions and actions.
That’s a good thing. Let’s work with that!
Once you’re clear on this point, it will save you (and any genuine psychic counsellor you consult) a lot of stress. Most importantly, it will help you focus your energy and attention where it can do the most good: YOUR role in shaping (or at least optimally responding to) future events. Why ride in the passenger seat, wondering where you are headed, when you could learn to drive?
It is easy to be “right” about predictions for a number of reasons. Even if something isn’t already likely to happen, the simple power of suggestion can make a prediction “come true” if the caller believes it strongly enough. Of course a genuine psychic can often get glimpses of current trends, and can pick up likely outcomes based on those trends continuing. But what if you don’t like those current trends? Wouldn’t you rather find out how to change course while there is still time?
I like the analogy of your life as a sailing ship, and a good reader as a navigator. A good navigator can help to read the winds and currents that are influencing your course, and can help you adjust your sails to compensate if the prevailing forces are not carrying you to your desired destination. If I see rocks ahead, I point them out and give instructions for steering around them. Surely you wouldn’t just want me to tell you: “You’re going to crash!”
Considering all the above, perhaps you can now see that there are many good reasons why a knowledgeable and ethical reader is very careful about making predictions. Since I care far more about helping my clients than about scoring points by being right (especially if being “right” means steering them toward some negative event that they might have been able to avoid), I tend to focus less on where your boat is drifting, and more on how you might chart a course to get where you want to be. When you think about it, isn’t that what you really want?
Getting the most from your reading:
Here is a suggestion. After decades of reading for myself and my loved ones, as well as counselling professionally, I have found this to be the most helpful approach to framing a question for a reading: “What do I need to be aware of in order to create the best possible outcome for everyone concerned?”
You can phrase it in your own words, of course, but I highly recommend you incorporate the elements of “best possible outcome” and “for the highest good of all concerned” — and acknowledge that you do, indeed, play a key role in bringing that about.
Here’s wishing you all the best.
