Ask Avalonne

Have you ever noticed how rare it is to find a truly caring person — one who sincerely cares about you and wishes you well, without any desire to get anything from you? Have you wondered why this is so?

Whether you are searching for a mate, or just hoping to create some friendships with people who will truly be there for you when the chips are down, you may have noticed that most of your “prospects” eventually turn out to be pretty self-centered and uncaring. If this describes some of the key people in your life, read on.

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Most of the questions and problems that I hear on a daily basis involve relationship issues. Even if a caller’s problem is not specifically romantic in nature, usually there is some human interaction that could be improved, to the benefit of all concerned. Although I address a wide diversity of problems and complications, it is clear to me that the same set of basic principles could be used to solve most of them. Would you like to know more about those principles, and how you might use them to improve your own situation?

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I am frequently asked this question, in various forms. Usually it is not quite so bluntly stated, yet it is the real concern or goal behind many questions about relationships.

All of us want to be loved, and many of us think we know just who would be the ideal person to do that loving. “They are perfect for me and I am perfect for them (the caller believes) — if only they would wake up and see it!”

In keeping with my policy of giving honest and ethical advice (instead of just telling people what they want to hear), I have some good news and some bad news for those who desperately want the love of a certain person. Read on — with an open mind — if you want to stop the frustration and find the love you’ve been craving in your life.

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